I believe the act of growing, birthing and raising life is the ultimate Reverence Story.
I believe this transition is a phenomenal site of challenge, growth and power for each woman walking through it.
And I believe that truly thriving mothers will change the shape and direction of this entire world.
I believe that as it stands w
omen pass through these pivotal years of transition with woefully inadequate support.
As women we have always understood on some level that our role is to keep quiet, head down, hustle, work harder. To accept things the way they are. At no point does this message scream louder than the transitional years of pregnancy, birth and early motherhood.
Community care is gone. We leave women to stand alone. Ill-equipped. Under resourced. Exhausted and overwhelmed. Women are set up for failure, and then asked to accept it as their own.
Embedded beliefs have taught us about who the Perfect Mother is - even before we have children. We know the rules. Become pregnant (easily). Love the pregnancy, cherish every moment, defer to the experts, be grateful, be quiet. Become a mother - slim the body, clean the house, nourish the child, pick up some kind of side hustle. Be grateful that you Have It All.
We also understand what not to do - never get angry, never get bored, never question the ‘expert’ or the status quo. We are taught to feel guilty for prioritising our basic human needs and shame about any parts of our experiences that deviate from perfection.
It’s so ingrained we barely see it. Can barely uncover words to articulate it so we can recreate a new way.
And yet, the story of this transition hasn’t always looked this way. It doesn’t have to look this way. We can hand back anything that doesn’t serve us.
I believe it is necessary to redefine this transition through a lens of awe and possibility.
The terrain we cross in this cracked-wide-open times of transition. The way we unravel, unveil and unfurl. It’s drenched in beauty. It is our reverence story.
I have treated thousands of women walking through all sorts of challenges in my practice. With my own eyes and my own heart I have witnessed women birth, triumph, grit, crawl, soar and thrive. So this vision and story of Reverence doesn’t come from a naive blindness to hardship and struggle.
It is an acknowledgement of the common thread that weaves through each of our stories. It is the way we find a way to continue on, in spite of it all. The way we continue to open to and rumble with what’s in front of us.
I stand in awe of the capacity, strength, compassion, determination and grit of women. And I believe it’s time we reframe women’s health and maternal health standing from here.
This glory. This triumph. This power.
I believe in focusing on our own personal values rather than attaching our worth to any particular external outcome.
Our culture and society prompts us to focus exclusively on outcomes in pregnancy, birth and mothering.
The ‘Natural Birth’. The ‘Healthy Baby’. The exclusive breastfeeding. The ‘Good Baby’ that sleeps through the night…
We have been trained to be outcomes focused. But what is it costing us?
Being outcomes focused often leads to disappointment and shame when we either fail to meet the desired outcome - or we do meet the outcome and don’t feel the way we thought we were going to feel when we get there.
When we redesign our focus to be on our lived experience and our values, instead on any one rigid outcome, we break the cycle of being set up for failure.
We reach a place beyond ‘good or bad’, to a place of educated and aware. We find the why behind any of those outcomes being important to us in the first place.
We build a flexible, compassionate plan to continue forward. We invite nuance and grace. Allow for our humanity.
I believe in elevating individual and collective care simultaneously.
Individual Care
One Woman At A Time work. Improving each persons unique lived experience of these transitional years - in response to their particular emotional landscape, sleep, energy, digestion, pains.
Collective Care
Considering what’s happening more broadly to elevate the collective experience.
Addressing themes that come up for all those traversing this terrain. Creating learnings relevant to us all. Holding space for the health, prosperity and trajectory of women and mothers more broadly.
I believe in a woman’s right and ability to make conscious choices that are perfect for her.
The more educated we become, the broader the perspective we have about what paths are available to us.
The more you can see and understand your options, the more you can unearth the best fit for you.
This creates space to align this transition with your values.
There is never one ‘right way’. I am here to overlay different information streams and diverse perspectives so that you can explore what matters to you, and create your own story.
I believe in care that reaches beyond our current cultural model. I believe that women deserve exquisite care.
Everything in my work is stacked to hold you in the most exquisite way imaginable.
Exquisite care means cultivating a relationship where you feel known and seen.
Exquisite care is
why I offer continuity of care through pregnancy, postpartum and the early mothering years - so you have a touch point, always.
Exquisite care means aiming for prevention, and early intervention. Exquisite care is the reason I aim for mastery in my skill sets.
I believe active preparation unlocks those better choices.
Recognising the ways we can prepare - the steps we can take ahead of time is really powerful work.
I can help teach you what you want to learn. Together we can
pull from our current and past cultural stories, modern research and the knowledge of ancient medical systems to identify areas to explore and solidify ahead of time. Before you even reach them. Preparation is taking a compassionate step towards prevention.